MY PAST AND HER PAST.

 Just getting marrried, and having the honeymoon experience, feels like the pleasure will never end, but more important to note is, a journey has just begun, a journey to the future, a journey away from the unpleasant past, a walk into a tomorrow full of hope, but suddenly comes an eclipse,  night occur in the day, the past interfer with the present.

      A dream-marriage turns around to be a nightmare, you hear couples say how come you never told me this, how do i cope with it, can I still trust you? The defence side say but I have changed, that was in the past, I kept it from you, because, I love you, and I did not want to hurt or lose you.

    It is true that sometimes these interferences come on their own, but  most times, indiscipline is a major causative factor. Many married people find it difficult cutting off  emotional attachments from their ex or first love as the case may be, even after marriage. They still idolize their photographs, and engage in dangerous-innocent relationships with the ex.

 Every saint had a past, and the sinner has a future. Though there are many stories we hate to tell, but we can not hide it from ourselves, our past is what makes us, no one knows us without knowing our past.. Hiding the past is only obscuring the future, it can't linger for ever. Many couples live a fake life, because they are yet to open up to their spouse.

    Overtime as a result of lack of trust and suspicions rising from secrecy and indiscipline, couples begin to dig in to eachothers past, and  find that alot was kept in the dark, their love begin to get cold and trust for eachother  begin to fade.

     No matter how difficult it may seem, it is easier and safer to say it before marriage, than to explain or appologize after marriage, when your spouse hears it from another source, because if someone else tells him, he or she will not put it the way you will, and your spouse will not see it as he will when it comes from you. Marriage stands on a two slim, but powerful pillars-love and trust, when trust is affected, love is also affected.